Snapback Culture

Hey everybody!

So I know it’s been awhile since I’ve posted, and a lot has happened in the interim. I won’t go through everything, but the most recent event is my husband and I welcoming our third son one month ago today! He is an absolute doll, and the perfect addition to our family. Though there is so much joy surrounding the birth of a child, there are also some not so joyous moments that moms experience, and this poem is based on some of those moments; not just for me but for moms everywhere.

To add context, this poem was written Sunday night after a walk with my husband and the boys. I had been excited, though a bit nervous, to take the first walk to kickstart my health journey back to my pre-pregnancy self. Don’t even ask why I was thinking about that so early. Anyway, I was nervous to go alone so it was a relief when my husband said he was taking the boys for a walk and I happily invited myself. I wanna note that earlier that day I had been in my feelings a bit thinking about how far I had to go to get back to the body and routine that I wanted so I prayed and did my best to snap myself out of it.

Fast forward and about halfway into the walk I started cramping. I chuckled as I said to my husband “Geez, this is a reminder that I just had a baby 4 weeks ago!” And at that moment I felt silly for the pressure I was putting on myself. At the same time, I was reminded of all the pressures that women face after having a child, and that was the birth of this poem. I hope it resonates with moms everywhere and that those who are not moms can understand better and be more sensitive and sympathetic. Mamas just know you’re not alone!

Without further delay, here is my poem titled Snapback Culture written 6/6/25…

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Congrats on your new baby! How old are they now?? Four weeks? You better start working on getting that belly back down!

But don’t stress about it. It’s not a big deal. Make sure you eat so you can breastfeed but also skip a few meals.

Oooh you’re not breastfeeding? Well dang that sucks. You know breast is best and formula is uh yuck!

You don’t make enough milk? Oh I don’t know what to tell you. If you can’t feed your baby from your body, then your body has failed you.

It’s not the most important thing that baby is fed. You need to FEEL the guilt an the shameful thoughts swarming in your head.

You don’t have time to heal or really relax. So and so’s baby is only two weeks and she already snapped back!

Social media is waiting to see how you look. The weight loss should be quick regardless of how long the gain took.

You only spent nine months growing a whole person and giving birth, but you can’t afford to be a little fluffy because your appearance is tied to your worth

They’re running a sale on BBLs, tummy tucks and lipo. If you can’t get rid of the mommy pooch fast enough, I’ll send you info for this surgeon I know.

Be patient with yourself but start walking as soon as you can. Start wearing your waist trainer by day three and don’t take too long getting back in the gym.

Oh you cry all the time? Can’t say I know how you feel. It can’t be postpartum depression because I heard that that’s not even real.

I know you’re still healing and hormones are still raging, but don’t forget that your job is also still waiting. You’ve been gone for too long, and all the work you left is still there. So ready or not, you have to put that baby in daycare.

I’m just tryna let you know. I don’t mean to hover like a vulture, but this is the age of Snapback Culture!